Looking for better love: I'm looking for a sensitive, child-free man who wants to laugh and play

Gender: Female

Age: 35

Looking for: Long-term monogamous relationship with a man.

I love to laugh and enjoy life. I go for the things I want; I never want to be left wondering “what if.” I like trying things that may seem terrifying at first — I usually end up feeling so happy about it! Recently I did the polar-bear dip and it was one of my best experiences ever.

I moved to Canada around 10 years ago on my own and have been able to build a life I feel so happy with. I know, being in Toronto, that’s the case for so many people, but it’s something I feel so damn proud of.

I make a great partner: I’m good with the family budget, I love to cook (even if my tiny kitchen makes it a challenge!), and I make a mean guacamole. I am very driven and independent: more of a, type-A, go-getter kind of person. I know that energy isn’t for everyone, but I’ve learned to embrace it. That said, I’m all about creating a partnership where we both have room to be ourselves and feel supported. I really value giving my partner space to grow and just be who they are.

My dating history

I’ve never been married. I’ve had some meaningful relationships and as wonderful as they have been, they just have not been the right fit. I have definitely spent more time single than not, which has allowed me to enjoy my time on my own and while I still really enjoy what life has to offer as a single person, I feel ready to embrace the possibility of a partnership.

I try meeting people in person via friends and social activities. Giving up the apps about six years ago took a lot of anxiety out of dating, and thankfully, I feel comfortable with making the first move!

What I’m looking for

I’m looking for a partnership where we’re best friends that can talk about anything, good or bad, and where we feel comfortable doing both the most elaborate outings as well as the simplest. We’d love spending time with each other, but also give ourselves the opportunity to keep growing individually. I want someone who will show up when I need them and know I will be there for them when they need me. A relationship where we are not afraid about getting uncomfortable in order to be better, where we can both fly freely every single day, but know we’ll return to each other by the end of it.

I want someone adventurous, but also reasonably sensitive. I’m drawn to people who have a good handle on their life, but still get that there’s always room to grow. Being self-aware and open to evolving is really important to me.

It’d be an awesome bonus to have someone who also loves old music from the ‘50s, ‘60s, ‘70s, and ‘80s and self-care nights, given my fondness for baths and face masks. I’m 5’10,” so someone tall would be great, but it’s not a deal-breaker for me.

Kids, on the other hand, are; I don’t have any and don’t want any in the future, either.

Why I’m doing it this way

I’m all for trying new things — to quote Samantha Jones, I’m a trysexual. If I get to meet someone, great, but if not, I was able to be part of something different. As someone who works in market research, I’m all about the social experiments; I love just seeing how new connections can be built in not-so-traditional ways. Want to give it a shot together?

Lightning round with Daniela

What three movies would you take to a desert island?

“Spotlight,” “Mona Lisa Smile” and “Billy Elliot.”

What was the last fun outing you had?

A shopping day! A friend needed to upgrade his closet and, while I’m not a big fashionista, I decided to help him and we had such a fun day. Every time I would pick up an outfit for him and he tried it on, he was so happy and looked like a little kid.

What are you most afraid of?

Falling into a life of comfort and not having something to motivate me to be the best version of myself.

What is your favourite food?

Mexican and Italian! I love spicy stuff, and love a good sauce — and well, who doesn’t love carbs?

If you could spend the day with one celebrity, who would it be and why?

I admire Michelle Obama’s take on life so much. I’d love talking about any subject with her; I feel like even with topics we may not agree on, I’d still be able to have such a deep conversation where multiple perspectives are shared in the most respectful and enlightening way.