A few years ago, I lost my dear husband. Since then, every time I gather with friends or family, the inevitable question comes: “Are you dating yet?” I smile, but inside, I’m quietly hoping that one day soon I can respond with a resounding, “Yes!”
So here goes.
I’m recently retired, fit, petite, and elegant.
I have an appreciation for the beautiful things in life — art, design, breathtaking vistas, and delicious food. I love life and consider myself young at heart, bursting with energy and curiosity.
I’ve raised my family well, travelled extensively, and, for the most part, lived a life guided by kindness and respect. I’m deeply loyal to those I love and never tire of meaningful conversations over a good meal or a glass of wine.
I’m open-minded, thoughtful, and genuinely care about the people I meet. Cooking and entertaining bring me joy, as do long hikes, dancing, and continuing my education at the University of Toronto. I’m equally comfortable at a fundraiser gala or at a cottage dock, in heels or hiking boots.
My days often start leisurely, include exercise, and grow full with activity, learning, and laughter. I enjoy books that make me think, music that moves me, and people who make me laugh without trying too hard.
My dating history
I’m widowed; we were together for over 30 years. I haven’t really dated much since my husband passed, other than a few friend set-ups here and there. I’ve taken time to heal and rediscover who I am now, and I feel ready — not to recreate the past, but to build something new and genuine.
What I’m looking for in a partner
I miss a tender connection — a love shared and returned in full measure. I’d love a simple initial spark that respectfully builds slowly and gently over a few months.
I want to meet someone who shares my values: someone sophisticated, a little creative, and accomplished, who takes care of their health and well-being. And a fellow traveller, both literally and figuratively, who is eager to explore the world and the depths of companionship.
They should be physically active and enjoy the outdoors, and positive, lighthearted, and funny. Someone who actually likes social gatherings would be wonderful: someone who enjoys conversation, connection, and isn’t afraid of a little adventure.
My ideal first date would be a coffee or walk together. For the second date, we could do something a bit planned like an AGO or ROM visit, or the movies or live theatre. And the third date? Dinner out together.
Deal-breakers include smokers or heavy drinkers and anyone who acts older than his years. My person must be healthy, nicely groomed and can support himself financially.
Why I’m doing it this way
My friend, who is also a widow, put me up to it. Navigating the path to love after loss is its own journey. It requires patience with myself and others, kindness in moments of doubt, and especially the courage to be vulnerable again.
There is no rush, no deadline — just the quiet hope that when the time is right, love will arrive in its own perfect way.
If you’re out there, I hope you’re reading. Put on your sneakers and let’s go for a walk together.
